In my research I found out that the problems a person is having with other people are problems that he is having with his personality, with his body, emotions, and mind.
If you abuse your body, you abuse the bodies of others. If you abuse your feelings, you abuse the feelings of others. If you abuse your own mind, you abuse the minds of others.
And once you abuse others, they will abuse you, and you will abuse them. This will go on forever, until one of you comes to his senses and stops the ugly game.
Sometimes self-abuse creates an enormous fear, a fear that is born inside. This fear is the result of the withdrawal of our Solar Angel. The Solar Angel temporarily withdraws due to our abuses, and this leads us into depression and fear.